Do you ever get that feeling that your life is getting out of hand? As moms, we are often pulled in a thousand different directions. We are like plate spinners - desperately trying to keep all the plates spinning and not letting any fall. By the end of the day we are left exhausted and usually one or two plates are shattered on the floor.
I recently felt like one of these plate spinners. I was spinning so many plates that each day I would inevitably let one drop and end the day feeling like a failure. I realized that this was no way to live life. I wanted to feel accomplished at the end of each day. I wanted to feel powerful and in control of every facet of my life. So I scheduled a meeting with Jaymi Anderson, life coach.
Going into our meeting I knew very little about life coaching. Was this going to be like a therapy session? Would I end up lying on a sofa with a box of tissues? Jaymi explained to me that she was a certified life coach. She told me that her job was not to tell me what to do, but it was to guide me in making decisions that would help me achieve measurable results.
I went into our meeting knowing exactly what I needed help with…time management! Being a mom of three kiddos, having a husband who travels frequently, running our household, owning a business, and teaching FIT4MOM classes was starting to take its toll. I knew that the problem centered on how I managed my time but I couldn’t figure out how to fix it. I often ended the day feeling like I was lacking in one or more areas of my life. If I had done some great work with my business, I felt like I had neglected my kids. If I had spent the day enjoying my kids, I felt like my house was a mess. There just weren’t enough hours in the day!
I honestly expected Jaymi to give me an answer to my problems. I assumed I would lay things out for her and she would say, “Here, try this.” What I got was so much better! By asking the appropriate questions, Jaymi lead me to an answer that was right in front of me all along. Through our discussions, we decided that in a perfect world it would help if I could get rid of any and all housework (every mama’s dream, right?). Housework was the one facet of my day-to-day that I felt was expendable and that I didn’t enjoy. Since outsourcing my housework isn’t an option at this time, Jaymi asked me what I could do to make it more manageable. I decided that taking the housework in smaller chunks every day would help. Normally I would put everything off until the house was such a wreck that I couldn’t take it anymore. Then I would go on a cleaning binger and make myself miserable while neglecting everything else. I decided it would help to have a cleaning schedule.
As soon as I got home from our meeting, I set up a daily cleaning schedule. I laid out which tasks had to be done everyday (dishes, making beds, etc.) and then gave each day a specific task. I tried to keep it simple so that housework would always be around a 30-minute job and kept in mind which jobs would be better for which days. For example, my kids get out of school early on Mondays, which usually leaves me rushing around all day. So on this day I scheduled something easy like cleaning the kitchen.
I really can’t say enough about how just an hour-long meeting with Jaymi has made such a huge impact on my sanity. Our meeting felt less like a therapy session and more like coffee with a good friend. I feel so much more in control of my time now. I absolutely loved that she didn’t give me any answers but rather guided me through her questions to what was going to work best for me.
If you are in need of guidance (and really, as moms, aren’t we all??) I would highly recommend seeking her out and finding your purpose, passion, and sanity!